I talk a lot about self love and self worth and confidence and how important it is to feel all these things (because it really is!), but in reality – it isn’t always that simple.
At a small yoga class I went to a few weeks ago we practised inversions, and when I went up into my headstand with my legs in a froggy position I was complimented on my flexibility. My instant reaction was to apologise and come straight out of the posture. Weird, right? It wasn’t until I was walking home that I realised that it was a really odd reaction to have to a compliment. But I don’t think it’s all that uncommon to feel uncomfortable and awkward when you’re complimented.
How often do you play down or laugh off compliments about your clothes or appearance? I can bet that your reaction has been to say “oh my hair looks nice because I washed it for once!” or “oh – this? It was so cheap!” – I know I have! But why?! Why do we feel like we can’t accept compliments, taking favour of self deprecation or flat out apologising for our successes? I think it’s strange and we should move forward into the scary world of actually appreciating ourselves, acknowledging the things that we, and others, like about us. So what do I propose?
LET’S CELEBRATE OURSELVES: I want it to be normal to be totally confident, cool and content – without worry of judgement (or whatever might be holding us back!)
PLAN OF ACTION:
How have you shown yourself some love today? Honestly, what have you done for you? This could range from taking the time to paint your nails, go to a yoga or fitness class, or calling that friend who always makes you feel amazing. Do at least one thing everyday that shows yourself some love.
Write a list of 5 (or 10 or 100!) things that you are good at and/or that you love about yourself. You don’t have to share it but the process will lift your spirits (and your confidence!)
Practice the art of ‘thank you’, accepting those compliments! People only give compliments because they want to, so no matter what you think about your hair or flexibility or whatever you’re being complimented on – accept it, absorb it and enjoy it!
Just give it a go. We spend too much time wishing we were more/had this/had that but if you take a look around you, you’ll probably be surprised at what you’ve got, who you are and what you’ve achieved.
I also think it’s great to get into the habit of sharing the love and giving compliments, you never know when someone might need it!
Let me know how you get on, or if you have any tips!